13 Unusual Quotes About Love and Relationships

Which category of relationship do you fall under? Are you in the, everything is just hunky dory in the land of love, relationship? The relationship where you think you don’t need to be reading advice or unusual quotes about love and relationships. Good for you. Now, wake up and stop being an idiot!

What?

I said wake up and stop being an idiot.

Yes, I am talking to you too. You, that goes around telling everyone else how good your relationship is. You, that pretends to the outside world that everything is good because that is the way it is meant to be and you don’t want to admit it’s all gone to crap. Not you? Oops, my bad.

Maybe you are the one that never, ever stops whining about your partner (and if you’ve stopped for a second to ask if this could be you then it quite possibly is).

But what if I am in the throes of love at the start of a relationship and everything is rosy in my garden. Then you need to hear this the most: because you have the best chance of us all, i.e. before you mess it all up.

If you are none of the above and have the perfect relationship with no ups and downs, your partner never pisses you off, and you never mess up, then there isn’t much of value here for you. I hope you have a happy life riding unicorns on your fantasy island surrounded by dolphins.

The fact is, love is a messy business. People we care about are messy business. And sometimes our day-to-day lives get so shitty that we forget about what is really important in life. It doesn’t matter what category you place yourself in now, if you don’t pay attention, every day, you might end up in one you don’t want to be in.

In this post you are going to get:

1. 13 Unusual quotes about love and relationships
2. My unique and wonderful wisdom applied to each quote 😉
3. One simple piece of fantastic advice

Now, here are some quotes

Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike – J.K.Rowling

Eventually, indifference and neglect lead to outright dislike. These are seemingly small at first but they are killers. Most of you will have heard of the phrase, familiarity breeds contempt, right?

If left unaddressed for too long, you wake up one day finding your partner wanting to kill you for doing that thing that at the start of your relationship they thought was cute. You know the one I mean?

Fact is, if you ask yourself, am I being indifferent, am I neglectful, then you know the answer. If you answer honestly. If it’s yes, start to change it before it’s too late.

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You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue – C. Joybell C

Can you sit with your partner and just be? Can you sit in silence? In a bar? In a park? In your garden? Can you just sit and hold hands and be comfortable with each other?

Sometimes it’s best anyway to just take your foot out of your mouth, shut up and just be for a while. Don’t feel like you have to always be talking. Just feel. Just be. Together. Connect.

This is especially useful on those days when whatever is coming out of your mouth has the same effect on your partner as rubbing earwax on the new upholstery.

 

When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are – Donald Miller

You build people up sometimes to be something. Then when they don’t live up to it, you feel they have let you down. Ask yourself, who was it said they were going to be this person? Who was it that put them on the pedestal? Was it them? Or was it you?

Did you fall in love with a perfect person or a perfect image of them? As mentioned earlier, those little things that were cute at the start that annoy the hell out of you now. What’s that all about? Who changed the story? What you are looking at is the same.

Unless you are the perfect relationship god or goddess, stop looking for perfect. What you like might just be standing right in front of you.

 

“Why is it,” he said, one time, at the subway entrance, “I feel I’ve known you so many years?”

“Because I like you,” she said, “and I don’t want anything from you” – Ray Bradbury (from Fahrenheit 451)

I don’t know about you, but I think this is the kind of love I want. There is a freedom in this. You start off liking someone and want to be with them.

Years later you expect things from them and want things from them. Stop wanting and start liking again. When you like you give more. And you become more like-able.

Is this a bit naive? A bit simple? No. I don’t think so. The rest of the stuff is day-to-day living and business that needs to be attended to. The problem is we forget this bit! The most important bit.

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The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too – Ernest Hemingway

This is where so many go wrong. I have been guilty of this many times in the past. Love isn’t sacrificing yourself completely for another person or being the person you think you need to be. Who is doing the loving if you aren’t there?

Love should bring out more of who you are, not less.

 

If thou dost seek to have what thou dost hide,
By self-example mayst thou be denied – William Shakespeare

Wise words from the bard, himself. What is it you think you are missing from your relationship? Or maybe just something you want more of? Are you giving this yourself?

This is where game-playing, keeping score and not budging until the other budges is counter-productive. And pretty damned dumb if you ask me. Life is way too short for this shit. Can the grown-ups please stand up?

 

Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who’ll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you’re in the wrong house, that’s what it means – Henny Youngman

Yes, Yes. This could be said about a man too. But I love this because it captures something very important in any relationship. Humour

If you can’t laugh at yourself, your partner, and some of the crazy things that happen in your relationship it’s going to be a dull ride.

Get over yourself and laugh a little.

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We know from daily life that we exist for other people first of all, for whose smiles and well-being our own happiness depends – Albert Einstein

There are so many fake Albert Einstein quotes out there it is quite possible he didn’t actually say this at all. Poor bloke has been misquoted so many times.

Anyway, whoever said this I think is bang on. This is different to sacrificing ourselves or losing ourselves completely in a relationship. This is genuinely doing things to make others smile and keep those we love looked after and safe.

There is no martyrdom here. It’s real. You do it because it makes you happy. Not just to try and be liked or because it is the right thing. There is a big difference.

 

Be sure it’s your real self you’re showing. Because it is your real self that needs to be loved – Daphne Rose Kingma

Are you still going around pretending to be someone you think your partner wants you to be. And then wondering why you aren’t loved for yourself?

I know this can be really hard sometimes. Really hard. So hard it can scare you to death. To reveal the true you underneath it all isn’t easy. That fear of being rejected for who you really are.

But just start small. Baby steps. Sometimes admitting to your partner that you are scared is the most freeing thing you can do. It’s the first step to someone loving you for who you really are.

 

Funny how we take it for granted that we know all there is to know about another person, just because we see them frequently or because of some strong emotional tie – Robert Bloch (Psycho)

Proximity and familiarity aren’t the same as knowing someone. And guess what? People are changing all of the time. So we need to keep getting to know them all the time.

As soon as you think you know your partner on every level, you have stopped trying. You are now dealing with an image you have of them and not the person. Now turn that around and imagine that is how someone is treating you. How does that feel?

Take a minute and see the person in front of you. The real person. Not the image of them you hold in your mind.

 

She couldn’t be on his wavelength all the time. That’s all. When you could recognize that and deal with it, you were on your way to an adult relationship – Stephen King (The Stand)

You are human. You will mess up. Sometimes you will not get your partner. Sometimes they will not get you. Sometimes you will see things differently?

You are different people?

What do you expect?

Ask yourself that again.
What do YOU expect?

Are you in an adult relationship?

 

Everybody deserves love, but nobody is entitled to it – Katerina Stoykova Klemer

This quote wraps it up nicely for me.

What about you?
Do you think you are just entitled to love?
Do you think it doesn’t have to be earned?

Yes, you deserve it. We all do.
But in order to keep it alive we need to tend to it every day.

At the start, I promised you some fantastic advice. And here it is!

watering the white rose

Don’t just read inspiring quotes and forget them. Do something!

Is that it?

Yup.

Quotes on blog posts and social media are a dime a dozen. People read them, click a like button and move on. It’s a momentary escape. It doesn’t change a thing.

Love and life isn’t about liking something, agreeing with something or even having an opinion. It’s about how you live your life.

I challenge you to take just one quote from above and make it a mission to not only read it, but apply it every day for the next 30 days. Just one. Whether it’s doing more of something or doing less of something. Take what resonated with you the most.

Just bloody well change something to make your relationship better. You may think that right now everything in the garden is rosy. Fine. But if you don’t water it, it will die. Water then will be useless and too late.

Live it consciously every day for 30 days and see what difference it makes.

 Cynical Gen X

As a member of Generation X, yes, we can be a cynical bunch. But I know that Gen X’ers care greatly. Most of them anyway.

I don’t care how corny it sounds. Life is short. It’s getting shorter. Know what you want. Work bloody hard at it and make it shine.

The cynic in me says you you’ll read this and forget it like all those other platitudes and quotes you read every day. However, the stronger part of part of me believes that underneath it all Gen X’ers have a big heart and they know what matters most.

On that basis, I am choosing to believe you will take on board at least one thing you have learned from these unusual quotes about love and relationships. And that you will start applying it from today.

Make a difference.

Make it now.

Leave a comment below letting me know which is your favourite quote from the post and what grabbed you most about it.

 

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  • Razwana Wahid
    Reply

    Donald Miller – my favourite quote out of the lot, and the lesson that’s been the hardest for me (both when being with other people, and for myself).

    It’s an ongoing thing. I have to check in with myself whenever I feel frustrated or disappointed with someone – both these emotions are usually because my own expectaions were off.

    • Keith Clarke
      Reply

      Hey, Raz

      It’s easy to slip into it, isn’t it? Checking our own expectations is an ongoing process. Very necessary in our relationships though if we want to nurture them 🙂

  • Lynette Robinson
    Reply

    Am I showing my real self? Was the one for me? I know I’m not &after 14 years I do not know how. I am afraid yes, keeping the peace is an ongoing issue. I am drowning and loosing myself in the process. I Have no idea what to do with this now. But thank you for more thought power.

    • Keith Clarke
      Reply

      Hi Lynette,

      Thanks for sharing. That sounds really tough. I’m glad you got some thought power from the post. I’d be happy to chat a little more with you about it. Please email me if you you think it might help.

  • Nadin
    Reply

    My favorite one is the one from Katarina Klemer. We should never take love for granted. If we do we stop making an effort.

    • Keith Clarke
      Reply

      Hey Nadin 🙂

      Agree 100%. When the effort goes everything else follows.

  • Mark
    Reply

    These are great! The J.K. Rowling one is my fav. So important not to neglect our loved ones (or anything we care about really).

    The Daphne Rose Kingma one stuck out to me a lot, too. And so important. From my perspective, it seems like a lot of people get into relationships and try to change who they are for the other person (or try and change them), and it just doesn’t work well in the long term. Lot of disappointment and sadness there when we ignore it, I think.

    • Keith Clarke
      Reply

      Hi Mark,

      Neglect is something that creeps up on us. Sometimes we don’t even know it is happening until some damage is done. And yes, trying to change who we are for someone else rarely works out well. Working on getting better at things for the sake of the relationship is different if, and only if, it is built on a foundation of who we truly are. But if we are pretending to be someone we are not, it’s almost impossible to keep the facade going long term.

      Thanks for commenting, Mark 🙂

  • Lea Bullen
    Reply

    Keith the intro reminds me of so many people. When I hear them talk like that I just listen knowing that they’re not ready to open up about it. But eventually the fasade comes crashing down.

    I think this would benefit everyone because at some point in time your partner pisses you off and vice versa. Some type of conflict is normal, and expected.

    I really like the Donald Miller quote. I think it’s fitting for most relationships, especially in the beginning, you’re typically disappointed when people aren’t who you want them to be.

    ~Lea

    • Keith Clarke
      Reply

      Hi Lea,

      Thanks for commenting 🙂

      The Donald Miller quote is powerful, isn’t it? How many of us have fallen in love with the idea of being in love? With am image of love that when the mist clears it isn’t the picture we had painted in our minds. I think when we fall in love with the real person in front of us, flaws accepted, it builds a deeper relationships because of these things, not in spite of them.

  • Derek
    Reply

    Hi Keith,
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and fantastic writing skills!
    “Everybody deserves love, but nobody is entitled to it”
    True love is the only proactive emotion, while all other emotions are reactive.
    Cheers!

    • Keith Clarke
      Reply

      Hi Derek!

      Thanks for you kind comment. I’m glad you enjoyed the article.

      It always helps when we can reduce those ‘reactive’ emotions

      Thanks again

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